Lessons from the Treaty of Hudaybiyyah

All Praises are to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. I bear witness that there is no god but Him and that Muhammad(pbuh) is His messenger.

The prophet is the mercy to mankind and his steps are those perfected by Allah that whosoever follow, shall find the mercy of Allah. This makes it so important that we derive our day to day actions from lessons learnt from the life time of the prophet(pbuh).

The treaty would be best understood after taking a leap into events that precede it. The prophet was sent by Allah to deliver some message to mankind. He set out for this but not without some difficulties as the leaders of Makkah (Quraysh) at the time wouldn’t let him be. His people were tormented and there was a need to move elsewhere. The movement is called Hijrah and was to madinnah. After six years in madinnah, the prophet had a dream that He and his companions made the lesser hajj(umrah) to makkah. The Umrah would mean a great accomplishment as it would complete their dean(religion).

The prophet set out with his followers of about one thousand four hundred. They pitched their tent at a place called Hudaybiyyah. At this time, the prophet knew the Quraysh had a plan of not allowing him and his followers entry into Makkah and so, he sent Uthman bn Affan to the Quraysh to tell them his aim of visiting Makkah was for Umrah and not to fight. Uthman did as told and the Quraysh refused to grant the request of allowing the prophet and all his followers. They however told Uthman he could perform his own hajj. An entourage was sent by the Quraysh to the prophet to persuade him to go back to madinnah but he refused. A man, Suhayl bn Amr was later sent and he came for truce, what we call the treaty of Hudaybiyyah. A treaty is an agreement between two states or sovereigns.

The Treaty

The Muslims shall return this time and come back next year, but they shall not stay in Makkah for more than three days.

They shall not come back armed but can bring with them swords only sheathed in scabbards and these shall be kept in bags.

War activities shall be suspended for ten years, during which both parties will live in full security and neither will raise sword against the other.

If anyone from the Quraysh goes to  Muhammad(pbuh) without his guardian’s permission, He should be returned but if anyone goes from Muhammad(pbuh) to the Quraysh, he shall not be sent back.

Whosoever wishes to join Muhammad (pbuh) or enter into treaty with him, should have the liberty to do so; and likewise whosoever wishes to join Quraysh, or enter into treaty with them, should be allowed to do so.

After the treaty was signed, the prophet and his people went back to madinnah.

You might start to think that this was a defeat against the prophet(pbuh) but Allah revealed the following after the treaty.

Surely We have given you a clear victory, that Allah may forgive you your former and later sins, and complete His blessing on you and guide you on a straight path and that Allah may help you with a mighty help. (48: 1-3)

              Lessons from the treaty

  • He (pbuh) sent a scout to check out on the Quraysh before he got close to makkah. This is to tell us that we are never to be caught by our enemies unaware. This is seen in diplomatic circles as spies are sent to other nations to detect threat to one’s nation.
  • When He and his people got to Hudaybiyyah, they were thirsty and the little available water was from a well. The prophet put his sword into the well and water gushed forth, enough to satisfy his people. This tells us the prophet performed miracles by the power of Allah.
  • When the prophet sent Uthman to the Quraysh, he asked Uthman to further propagate Islam. Every position we find ourselves should be used in spreading the message of Islam.
  • When Uthman was in Makkah, he was asked by the Quraysh to perform his own tawaf but he declined saying he would only after the prophet did. This is a characteristic of a good follower, one  to emulate.
  • Uthman did not come back early enough from the Quraysh and there was the general fears that he was killed. The people with the prophet pledged their allegiance to him and promised to fight the Quraysh if Uthman was killed. Allah so much loved this that he sent a revelation as follows.

        ‘Allah was pleased with the believers when they were pledging their                      allegiance under the tree.'(48: 181 )

  • When the Quraysh saw the pledge under the tree, they feared. This shows how our Unity can be enough stronghold against our enemies.
  • Before an agreement was reached, the Quraysh sent a delegation to the prophet in order to ask him to go back to Makkah but he disagreed after which a man, Mikraz bn Hafs was sent. On sighting the man, the prophet remarked, ’that is a treacherous man’ but when Suhayl bin Amr was sent, the prophet said ‘it is clear that they want peace since they have sent this man’.-let our actions be good enough to always speak for us in our absence.
  • The agreement was written by Alli- this is an attestation to the prophet being unlettered.
  • The writing began with the name of Allah and then an introduction that reads- ‘This is what Muhammad, the prophet of Allah has agreed to‘. The Quraysh didn’t want it written that way and the prophet asked that it be changed to Muhammad, the son of Abdullah. Islam doesn’t allow us to be rigid. When there are options to a task, we can always go for them.
  • Alli did not agree to the change but the prophet asked Alli to show him where and erased it himself. That is leadership by example.
  • After the agreement, the prophet was distressed and so were his people- they loved him so much that his discomfort was their discomfort. Our love for Allah and the prophet should be the greatest.
  • The prophet was faced with the task of telling his people to go back to makkah after the treaty was signed, but they were too distressed to agree. He sought the advice of his wife, Umm Salamah. The Prophet never took women as second class citizens. They had the best of treatment under the Islamic rule and their voices were heard.

The Aftermath

…But it is possible that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah knows and you know not.(2:216)

The treaty which would have been myopically seen as a defeat ended up being victory for the Muslims. The treaty allowed a mix between Muslims and non Muslims and led to the conversion of many of the Pagans to Islam as they were thrilled by the good qualities of the Muslims. The prophet performed hajj with ten thousand Muslims the following year. Islam was largely spread by good character and not by sword as misconstrued.

The treaty gave the Muslims a political recognition in the Arabian peninsula. After all, a treaty is only signed between sovereigns. It also released the stronghold the Quraysh had on Arabia as the religious leaders of the region. That broke their power and their defeat was imminent.


Any mistake in this write-up is mine and I stand corrected on them. May Allah forgive our sins, accept this as Iba’dah and help us all to be able to practice all that we have learnt from it(Amin).


Eid al Adha- What You should do

Salam alaykum

Today is yaom al Arafah. Alhamdulillah. What a blessed day. I hope you are fasting.

Tomorrow is eid mashaAllah!!!!!!!!!!. I know I don’t have to peep in to know you have beautiful things in those boxes, wrappers, bags, or wardrobe- all for tomorrow!!!!!!. Tomorrow is gonna be a great day, it would be fun filled InshaAllah. Awaiting it gives so much joy, so much hope. hmmmmn You really are Lucky if you are with your family. I hope am with mine too 😦 . The good thing however is, I actually am with them, My Muslim Sisters. Together, we make an Islamic family. So, am still so happy like you are, Oops! Oh! Or is there someone who is so far away from any kind of family ?? Cheer up! Its all good and it  is the way Allah wishes it to be! No matter how its gonna be, something common to all of us is the blessings of Allah which we all are lucky to be having. For sparing our lives till this moment, We are thankful to Him.

Now do we just go for eid or do we go for eid, maximizing its benefits ???. I know you’d choose the latter just like me #smartMuslims. Certain things make it Eid while others are the manners expected of us on eid day.let us start with the former

Rulings on eid.

  • Fasting– to fast on eid day is forbidden. On eid-l adha(the eid that involves killing a ram), we are enjoined not to eat until after eid prayers whereas, during eid-l-fitr(after Ramadan), to eat something, even if it is as little as a date is enjoined.
  • Eid prayers– this is to be observed, preferably in the open. Women are to attend too even if they are menstruating But menstruating women are to stay at the back and not with the people praying.

Concerning the prayer

-The takbeer during the first raka’ah is seven and five for the second rakaah. If you miss any of them, you don’t have to say them back(they are not compulsory aspects of the prayer)

– if you miss the whole prayer, you can have your own.

-many people make the mistake of observing nafila when they get to the prayer ground. That is wrong. The eid prayer itself is a nafilah and so you don’t need to say another one. But, if the prayers is taking place inside a mosque, you can observe tahiyat al masjid(the two rakaah nafila that is observed whenever one enters a mosque).

  • Khutbah(sermon) – this is done after the prayer. It is not compulsory that you listen to it. But like a smart Muslim, I would InshaAllah – Why get a little of the blessings when I can have them all!!
  • Killing of a ram

Adab (manners of eid)

  • To take a bath– for God’s Sake, it is a day of festivity, Everyone should be clean. Purity is emphasized in Islam and on a day like this, further emphasized. It is okay to just have a bath. But better to have a ghusl(ritual bath) too. To clip the nails, shave pubic hairs are acts of cleanliness that Islam encourages. But for people who are to offer the sacrifice, to clip the nails, shave or cut their hairs is not permissible for the first ten days of dhul hijjah. They can only do these after they have done their sacrifice. Doing them doesn’t however nullify the sacrifice.
  • Takbeer– praises of Allah are to be said by all and aloud. This should start from the maghrib before the eid day until We get to the mosque and the Imam comes to lead Us in saying it.

Here, I need the attention of all. This is how the prophet taught it, Unlike what many of us, especially Nigerians are used to.

Allahu Akbaru llahu Akbar
LaillahaillaAllahu Allahu Akbar

Allahu Akbar walillahi l hamd.

In case you know of the additions, Allahu akbaru kabira wal hamdulillah kathira wasubhanallahi bukrata wa asila… desist from saying them. Even though they are good wordings, there is no proof(except you provide one) for these statements as regards eid  and Allah knows best.

  • Looking your best- we all know that, I think 🙂 🙂
  • To walk  walk to the mosque– encouraged.
  • To take a different route– to take a route different from the one we took to the masjid.
  • Congratulating one another– oh yh! We are to shake one another. Even people you never knew, on the day of eid. We are enjoined to say good words to one another. These are permissible in our local dialects too. But from the life of the prophet, we learn of this

Taqabalallahu minna wa minkum.( may allah accept it from us and from you)

Other  forms of greeting on Eid day are-

A ku odun A ku iyedun. Emi a se pupo e (Yoruba)

Kulu ‘am wa antum bikhayr(may you be well all through the year)

kulu sana wa antum toyyibeen

Eid Mubarak(Arabic)

Barka de sallah(hausa)

Add yours pls..


-Some people stand up in the night counting down to twelve a.m- haba! That is not in Islam o. it is a practice of the non-believers.

-some stand up in the night to have special prayers. Muslims are to wake up for this prayers whether or not it is The day of eid. Attaching special importance to the prayer on this day is disallowed.
– what type of entertainment are you gonna be having- some Muslims serve alcoholic drinks! They tell you it is for their christian friends. That is haram. If you do this, you are reducing your blessings of the day and sinning against Allah

May Allah help us get the best of this day And May he bless us with long lives that we may Celebrate many more Eids

To You all I say, taqabalallahu minna wa minkum. A ku odun, A ku iyedun, Emi a se pupo laye!!!!

A ku odun

Ghaddafi’s death!- lessons to learn

I was going to keep quiet over this. But I decided, enough of that. The death of Ghadaffi didnt come as a shock So I thought we would most probably be saying the same things we have been saying since the ‘revolution’ started except for a new talk on the humiliation and then the reflection over how much power, money, influence and so on do not really matter when death beckons, when the will of God is to be established. But, I changed my mind for reasons I keep away from this write-up.

The first thing to note and that comes to my mind in Situations like this is the thought that God is the only supreme being. The rich can become poor, Presidents go and others come, Kings die and relieve their duties and Dictators do die on the streets. Let no one take power to be their birth right and then hang on to it as if they will never die. It should be seen as a test, something to run away from. Allah says-

Do men think that they will be left alone on saying, ‘we believe’ and that they will not be tested?(29:2)

Also, Allah says-

And  If Allah did not check one set of people by means of another, the World would indeed be full of mischief (2;51)  

What happened to Ghaddafi only confirms the above verse. Do you think you are so powerful that you can not be checked by others? You would surely be checked and the world could thereby be relieved of some mischief. Note that this verse is in relation with what happened to Goliath. He was checked by the action of David.

Oh Ghaddaffi was truly bad. He committed all sorts of atrocities, But did he truly deserve to die the way he did? This is something  that has been bothering me. I didn’t sleep well the night he died-Maybe, I shouldn’t have seen the video!
In an Islamic setting, this manner of killing has no place. The almighty doesn’t need a structured system for His will to be carried out. But every partaker in it would be questioned on their role. We should always be careful of how emotions guide our ways. He could have been made a prisoner, tried in a court and sentenced as required.  This just reminds me of the athar on a companion of the prophet who met a disbeliever on a battle field. The disbeliever spitted on him and as  he was about to strike the disbeliever with his sword, he remembered his intention had changed. he wasn’t going to strike him for the sake of Allah but out of anger for the spit. He retracted as a result. This is the kind of manner in which every Muslim should behave even in the most difficult situations.

I was surprised that Many people think of the war in Libya with respect to Islam as to see it as a victory for or defeat against Islam. Don’t be confused people. What happened in Libya is totally political. But majority of the people involved are Muslims. Ghaddafi’s rule wasn’t an Islamic one, so if you are rejoicing because you are anti-Islam, it is time you get an education. And Muslims should avoid being divided over this Issue. There is little our argument on whether Islam agrees with this kind of revolution would achieve.
Baseline is, the Arab nations are going through a trying time and Muslims from other parts of the world are worried and of course we have to be, for the people involved are our brethren-whether right or wrong.

Some people are rejoicing over Ghaddafi’s death. No one should rejoice over someone else’s death, I think. His death should serve as a reflection for you- something that brings death to your consciousness. Are you aware of how your own death would be. Where it is going to happen and the circumstances that would surround it? Are you even in a position to judge anyone based on what you read and hear? when you arent sure of their relationship with God? Can you beat your chest and tell the whole world that you would be in a better position than this man on the day of reckoning?? Food for thought this is.

Having said these, I only hope that something good happens after now; that the people of Libya wouldn’t be further divided and that the country would be built back, starting with an Islamic foundation.

Zakaat al maal and Zakaat al-fitr.

Zakaat is one of the pillars of Islam, without which your Islam is incomplete.!, So, May I ask that you take the pain in coming along with me as we dwell into the basics of Zakaat.??????.
hmmmn, it might interest you to know for a start, that Zakaat has nothing to do with your age; a one year old can be rich enough to pay it. How about the thought that you, and yes you, or someone you know is so much in debt,(Zakaat debt -:D) for all d years of non- payment or probably for the lack of the knowledge of how to pay it or whom to pay it to, and on what it is due..

Did I lose someone along the way??
Eh!, sorry..
Zakaat means alms giving. It is some form of tax paid by the rich to the poor as ordained by Allah(God).

There are two types of Zakaat- Zakaat al maal and Zakaat al fitr.

                                                                        Zakaat al maal
This is the most common form of Zakaat and the word Zakaat is usually used to mean Zakaat al maal.
Why should we pay it?
-It is an injunction by Allah and anyone who does it would be rewarded and anyone who is to pay it but doesn’t is punished.
-It ensures a wide distribution of wealth.
-It strengthens the bond of love between the rich and the poor. You would agree with me that we are naturally drawn to people who offer us help, are generous or just niceeeeee. 🙂
-It brings increase and blessings to one’s wealth.
– Allah wipes away one’s minor sins.
-It purifies one’s wealth
-it builds in us sympathy for others and helps us get more inclined towards being generous.

Zakaat al maal is due on-

  • Farm produce such as grains and fruits produced by the earth
  • Gold and silver(whether they are worn , kept or are for rent or sale). Money or paper currency is under this category as explained by scholars.
  • Animals, such as cattle which feed freely from the earth
  • Commercial commodities (including land for sale, buildings for sale, the rent obtained from a house, cars for sale or the money made from their rent or hire, machines for any kind of money making business and any other thing owned for the purpose of sale)

*Any of the above, that is as much as a Nisab,(the minimum amount on which Zakaat is paid) kept for one year is due for Zakaat. Let me put it in a simpler form.. Someone may have kept silver for one year, if this silver is not up to a Nisab, Zakaat is not paid on it and same goes for the others.

              How much is Nisab?

  • For grains, the Nisab is five wasaq(which is approximately 135kg of grains) and one wasq is equivalent to sixty saa’ and a saa’ is equivalent to four times of both handfuls of a man of average built.
  • For silver, the Nisaab is 140 mithqal which equals 56 Saudi riyals(all you have to do in this case is convert your currency into riyals and see).
  • For gold, it is 20 mithqal and equals 92 grams or 11 3/7 pounds.(you get to weight that to find this out)
  • Money is valued according to the Nisab for gold or silver.
  • For commercial commodities, you value them(make an inventory) at the end of the year and pay on them.

How much is paid?

  • On fruits and grains, if they relied on natural means for water such as rain and rivers, the amount due on them is 10 per cent of the total amount but if they relied on unnatural sources such as irrigation schemes, 5% is due on them.
  • On gold and silver, 2.5% is due on the total amount, including the profit earned. Same goes for money-2.5% is paid.
  • For commercial commodities, an inventory is taken at the end of the year, and 2.5% is paid on that. The inventory includes the profit made even if not in one’s possession at the end of the year or if the profit came about at the end of the year. What matters is that the capital(original amount )is up to the Nisab at the beginning of the year. TO make it clearer, the prophet asked his companions to pay Zakaat on their herds with the inclusion of the newly born at later part of the year.

Note– Zakaat is to be paid on the wealth of Orphans and of the insane. Whoever is in charge of their money is to pay Zakaat on them if the monies are up to the Nisab and kept for a period of one year.

Now, we know what Zakaat is due on, and how much of it is paid,

who do we pay to??
Allah says-
‘The charity(I.e Zakaat) is only for the poor, the needy, those employed to collect(the Zakaat), for slaves, for    those   in debt, for (jihaad) in the cause of Allah, and Allah is the All-Knower, the All-Wise’ (Q.9:60).

  • The Last part, Allah is the All-knower, the All-Wise is some form of warning to us, to desist from diverting the Zakaat to other purposes for Allah is wise enough and knows well enough whom is deserving of the Zakaat.
  • The poor are those unable to support themselves with sufficient means, except for very little, and that little is for less than a year.
  • The needy are those who are able to support themselves with sufficient means for half of the year or more but not enough for the entire year. For someone who doesn’t have cash on him but has sources of income like a job or profession that can sustain him, he should not be given the Zakaat.
  • Those employed to collect the Zakaat are those who are in charge of collecting from the rich and distributing to the poor. They are paid according to the effort they put in.
  • Those whose hearts would be inclined are those whom when given the Zakaat might become Muslims or might have increase in faith and even become callers to the deen.
  • Slaves in order to buy and set them free.
  • Those in debt, if they do not have the means to pay off.
  • In the cause of Allah refers to jihad. People who fight for Allah’s cause are in this category. Also, students are in the cause of Allah and may be in need of materials such as books to buy and are also entitled to it.
  • The wayfarer is a traveler that is stranded. Zakaat is meant to enable him get back home.

                                                                              Zakaat al fitr

 While Zakaat al mal can be given at any part of the year, Zakaat al fitr is given at the end of ramadan and before or on the day of eid al fitr.

IT is given to enable the poor have something to feast on. Eid al fitr is a day of celebration signifying the end of Ramadan, the ninth month of the Islamic calendar and the month in which the obligatory fasting is done.
It also serves as a purification of our fast from vain speech and immoral acts just like the sajdah of correction(ba’di and qabli) purify our salaat.

What is given?

Saa’ of food, particularly of foods uprooted from the soil. It is recommended that the staple food available in each area is what is provided.

What is allowed is in the form of grains, barley and its likes. Meat, fish eggs are not acceptable.

Money, clothes and other stuffs apart from what is stipulated by the prophet are NOT to be given as Zakatul fitr.


To be given on the day of eid, just before the eid prayers is preferable. To give it after the eid prayers is considered charity(Sadaqah) rather than Zakaat. However, some companions of the prophet would give it two days before eid and that is permissible!

To whom??

Some scholars say it should be given only to those Allah commands to be given Zakaat al mal while others say it is meant for the poor only.

Obligatory on whom??

A Muslim who is able to pay it.
Everyone pays on behalf of whom they take responsibility over. A man pays on behalf of his wife, children, poor parents(who cant pay on themselves), slaves, or other relatives under his care. If they can pay on themselves, it is better that they do.
He doesn’t have to pay on a child who takes responsibility on himself or a maid whom he pays salary.
If a child is born into the family before sunset on the last day of ramadan, it should be paid on his behalf, likewise if a man dies before sunset on the last day of ramadan, it must be paid from what he left or on his behalf.


A saa’(equivalent to four handfuls of an average built man) is paid on behalf of each person. A saa’ is approximately 3kg of rice.

If you have read this far, I say MashaAllah on your behalf..*winks*

May Allah help us to be able to put his commands into practice. May He bless the generality of the Muslim Ummah. May He accept all our Ibaadah and accept us into jannatul firdaus!!!!!!!!!!! Amin.


Zakaat al fitr




As we all know, the ‘last ten days of ramadan’ is here!, the most important part of which is a night, the Laylatul Qadr, a night greater than a thousand months !We, as Muslims are encouraged to seek this night by staying in seclusion.. This seclusion is I’tikaaf. This write-up is aimed at providing the basic things to know of I’tikaaf in order to get the full benefit of it. May Allah help us!


I’tikaaf literally means to stick to something and block out every other thing. In this context, it means seclusion, intending intimacy with Allah.
It is Mustahab(desired) but becomes Waajib(compulsory) on anyone who made a vow to perform it.
It can be performed at any time of the year but is of much importance in Ramadan because of the seek for the Laylatul Qadr.

Conditions for I’tikaaf

  • It has to be in a mosque, all kinds of mosque is acceptable.
  • It may or may not be accompanied by fasting.
  • The least period for it is a night but is best done for the whole of the last ten days.
  • The best time to enter it is after solatul subh(say, on the 21st day of ramadan) and the prophet would leave it after subh on eid day.

what nullifies I’tikaaf

Sexual intercourse (…but do not associate with your wives while you are in retreat in the mosques.. Q.2:187)

Desirable acts

  • All the acts of worship are encouraged at this time- voluntary prayers, Qur’an recitation, repentance.
  • Give charity, increase in good deeds.
  • The prophet especially taught us to say-Allahuma innaka afuwwun tuhibbul afwa fafuanni.

Don’t forget

This is the time to ask Allah for all the things you want. Don’t be too shy or reluctant  to ask and don’t you think your sins can prevent you from asking. Remember, he knows you in and out and he is the oft forgiving, most merciful!

WHat Allah says

3- the night of power is better than a thousand months


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Zainab bint Jahsh

I have seen in people qualities I like, that I like to model. But from what history has told us of  Zainab bint Jahsh, I have a complete role model. I see her as a pious woman, an achiever, an industrialist and a giver. I hope everyone gets to learn something significant from her life.

Early life

She was the cousin of the prophet (SAW). Her mother, Umayma being the daughter of Abdulmuttalib, the prophet’s Grandfather. Abdulmuttalib was one of the respected leaders of the Quraysh. Thus Zaynab bint Jahsh came from one of the noblest families and everyone expected her to eventually marry someone with the same high social status.
The prophet was aware that a person’s standing in the sight of Allah is important rather than his or her status in the eyes of people. He therefore wanted her to marry a young man, Zayd ibn Harith, whose background was very different from hers.
About Zayd
Zayd had been taken prisoner as a child during one of the inter tribal wars that had been common before the coming of Islam. He had been sold as a slave to the nephew of Khadija who had given Zayd to her as a gift and She In turn, had given him to the prophet(SAW).The prophet gave him his freedom and adopted him as his own son @ the age of eight.

The prophet had watched both of them grow and wanted to demonstrate to the people that their  parenthood is not what matters but their standing in the sight of Allah. He asked for Zaynab’s hand in marriage on behalf of Zayd. She and her family refused until the following aaya was revealed
  ‘It is not for a believing man or a believing woman when a matter has been decided by Allah and His messenger to have any say in their decision; and whoever disobeys Allah and his messenger has clearly gone astray’.(33:36)

After this verse was revealed, both Zayd and Zaynab agreed to the marriage and the prophet provided an handsome dowry to Zaynab on Zayd’s behalf.  The marriage however wasn’t a success. Although Both Zayd and Zaynab were the best of  people who feared Allah and his messenger, they were very different and in the end could not overcome their incompatibility. Zayd asked the prophet’s permission to divorce Zaynab more than once, and although he was counseled to hold on to his wife and fear Allah, in the end the divorce took place.

The prophet was then ordered by Allah to marry Zaynab which he did in 5A.H, when he was 58 years old and she was 35.Before Zaynab’s marriage to Zayd, she had wanted to marry the prophet and he had even been asked by her family if he would like to marry her or not. It was therefore a ‘dream come true’

When the prophet received the command to marry her, he smiled and said who will go and give Zaynab the good news? and he recited the aaya. Some say it was Zayd himself who took her the good news. When Zaynab heard the news, She stopped what she was doing and prayed to thank Allah. Afterwards she was fond of pointing out that her marriage was arranged by Allah.
  Her lifestyle

  • Zaynab was a woman who was always immersed in the worship of Allah.

It was related by Anas ibn Malik that once the prophet entered the mosque and found a rope hanging down between two pillars, so he said,” what is this?” He was told ,’It is for Zaynab. She prays and when she losses concentration or feels tired she holds on to it.’ The prohet said ‘untie it. Pray as long as you feel fresh but when you lose concentration and become tired then you should stop. ’

  • She was also very generous to the poor and the prophet said this about her to his other wives, ‘She is the most generous of you’

The prophet said to Umar, ’Zaynab bint Jahsh is one who is full of prayer.’ A man said “messenger of Allah, what is that?”. He said ‘the one who is humble and earnest in prayer.
Aisha also said of her ‘I have never seen a woman so pure as Zaynab, so God-fearing, so truthful, so attentive to family ties, so generous, so self-sacrificing in everyday life, so charitable, and thus so close to Allah, the exalted.’

As with every marriage of the prophet, there is always at least, a lesson to learn. His marriage to Zaynab confirmed that it is permissible for cousins to marry. It also demonstrated that in Islam, an adopted son is not regarded in the same light as a natural son and that although a man may never marry a woman whom his natural son was married to and then divorced, the father of an adopted son is permitted to marry a woman who was once married, but is no longer married to that adopted son.
Her wedding feast was another occasion for an ayah to be revealed. After the walimat (wedding feast ),two men remained chatting and it was very hard for the prophet, who finds it hard to criticise people to ask them to leave. Allah then revealed the ayah known as the ayah of the hijab (33:53-56)
Her Death
Zaynab was with the prophet for six years and lived for another nine after his death, dying @ the age of 50.
Several years after the prophet had died, during d reign of Umar, great wealth came to the Muslims as a result of fighting the Persians. The treasures of the empire fell into their hands. Umar sent a pile of gold to Zaynab which she sent to all the poor people she knew until what remained was only eighty dinars. Because she believed so much money was a temptation, she asked Allah that she would never witness such a large distribution of wealth again.
Her prayer was granted. She wasn’t alive the following year when Umar was there to distribute money among the wives of the prophet.

It was related by Aisha that the prophet once said to his wives, ‘The one who has the longest hands among you will meet me again the soonest.’ Aisha added that they used to measure each other’s hands to see which was the longest and it was the hand of Zaynab, because she used to work by hand and give away in charity.



Ref- The wives of the prophet Muhammad by
Ahmad Thomson (Ta-ha publishers, uk)

Verily, In the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.

Sad, moody or despondent??


We have all at one time or the other felt this way. It is in fact part of our existence as humans. Someone once said that the challenges of day to day living are what make life interesting. uhhmnnnnn so?? You are sad when something bad happens to you. You get moody even when you can not pin point what is wrong. Fact is, you want to feel otherwise, you want to be happy or at least feel differently.

So many ways have been deployed by people to flee the sad moments of life. We seek money, food, good life, spouses, children in the bid to fill some vacuum, hoping happiness would surface only to find other loopholes. In the case of someone who fulfils this need by making more riches, at some point would realise money isn’t it and at this time could have gone very deep into money mess, Eating could have led to obesity. Children, only for family planning to become an urgency. And oh spouses?? Until a heart is broken ;D.


So, what do we do when sadness comes in, when we feel so moody or when despondency sets in? Allah has gives us a way out by saying-

                                          ‘verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest’ (Q.13:28)


SO when next you feel sad,

  • Take your Mushaf (Qur’an) and recite. You’d be surprised at how relieved you would be.


  • say this, as taught by the prophet (S.A.W) –

  Allahuma inni ‘abduka ibnu ‘abdika ibnu amatika, naasiyateebiyadika, maadin fiyyahukmuk, adlun fiyya qadaa         ‘uka, as ‘alukabikulli isminhuwa laka, sammaita bihi nafsaka, aw anzaltahu fee kitaabika, aw allamtahuahadan min khalqika, awista thartabihi fee’ilmilghaibi indaka, an taj’alal quranarabee a qalbi, wa noora sadri, wa jalaa’a huzni, wa dha-haabahammi.

Meaning( Oh Allah, I am your slave and the son of your slaves. My fate is in your hands. Your judgement upon me is assured. Justice upon me is your command. I ask you by every name you have taken for yourself, revealed in your book, taught anyone of your creation or taken unto yourself in the realm of the unknown, to make the Qur’an the spring of my heart, and the light of my breast, the banisher of my sadness and reliever of my despondency.)
*and I tell you it has worked for me over and over again.

  • How about preventing this state as much as possible. Many of the time we have choices to make. Realising we have made the wrong one can make a wound, long to heal in our heart. The prophet taught us Istikhara and one of his sahabahs narrated that He (rasulullah) taught Istikhara like he taught them surahs of the Qur’an(stressing its importance). With Istikhara you can be rest assured that the best decision is made and even when things go wrong in it, you believe strongly that something better /more beneficial would come out of it. Isn’t this the rest we seek??

*Istikhara can be done even on what we tearm the least significant like choosing what to wear, what route to take and what food to eat to the more important ones like whom to marry and which house to buy.

How istikhara is performed
There’s so much more to Istikhara (requiring much details) but the basics of its observance is two rakaats of salat after which its duaa( supplication) is recited thus-

Allahumma inni astakhiruka bi ilmik, wa astakdiruka bi qudratik, wa asaluka min fadlikal azzem, fainnaka takdir wala aqdir, fa ta’lamu wa la a’lam, wa anta a’lamul guyub, Allahuma in kunta ta’lamu anna hadhal amr (mention what you want to decide on) khairun lee fi deeni wa ma’aashi wa aaqibati  amri, faqdirhuli wa yassirhu li thumma barikli feehi, wa inkunta ta’lamu anna hadhal amr  sharrun lee fiddeeni wa ma ‘ashi wa aaqibati amri, fasrifhu   ‘anni wasrifni anhu waqdur liyal khayr haithu kaana thumma ardini bihI.
Meaning– (Oh Allah I seek the counsel of your knowledge, and I seek the help of your omnipotence, and I beseech your magnificent grace. Surely you are capable and I am not. You know and I know not and you are the knower of the unseen. Oh Allah, Surely you know, so if this matter(mention it) is good for me, in my religion and in my life and for my welfare in the life to come then ordain it for me and make it easy for me, then bless me in it. And if this matter is bad for me, in my religion and in my life and for my welfare in the life to come, distance it from me, and distance me from it, and ordain for me what is good wherever it is to be found and help me to be content with it)


*If in a situation where the rakaats cannot be observed, saying the supplication is enough.

With the counsel of Allah sought, the mind is at rest that the decision taken is for the best. While moody, reciting the dua of the prophet is enough and while really sad, reciting the Qur’an( dhikr) might be all the heart needs to find rest!

IF you know of other ways to fight despondency, Share! A brethren might find it helpful!

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