Verily, In the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.


Sad, moody or despondent??

sad???

We have all at one time or the other felt this way. It is in fact part of our existence as humans. Someone once said that the challenges of day to day living are what make life interesting. uhhmnnnnn so?? You are sad when something bad happens to you. You get moody even when you can not pin point what is wrong. Fact is, you want to feel otherwise, you want to be happy or at least feel differently.

So many ways have been deployed by people to flee the sad moments of life. We seek money, food, good life, spouses, children in the bid to fill some vacuum, hoping happiness would surface only to find other loopholes. In the case of someone who fulfils this need by making more riches, at some point would realise money isn’t it and at this time could have gone very deep into money mess, Eating could have led to obesity. Children, only for family planning to become an urgency. And oh spouses?? Until a heart is broken ;D.

 

So, what do we do when sadness comes in, when we feel so moody or when despondency sets in? Allah has gives us a way out by saying-

                                          ‘verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest’ (Q.13:28)

 

SO when next you feel sad,

  • Take your Mushaf (Qur’an) and recite. You’d be surprised at how relieved you would be.

Or

  • say this, as taught by the prophet (S.A.W) –

  Allahuma inni ‘abduka ibnu ‘abdika ibnu amatika, naasiyateebiyadika, maadin fiyyahukmuk, adlun fiyya qadaa         ‘uka, as ‘alukabikulli isminhuwa laka, sammaita bihi nafsaka, aw anzaltahu fee kitaabika, aw allamtahuahadan min khalqika, awista thartabihi fee’ilmilghaibi indaka, an taj’alal quranarabee a qalbi, wa noora sadri, wa jalaa’a huzni, wa dha-haabahammi.

Meaning( Oh Allah, I am your slave and the son of your slaves. My fate is in your hands. Your judgement upon me is assured. Justice upon me is your command. I ask you by every name you have taken for yourself, revealed in your book, taught anyone of your creation or taken unto yourself in the realm of the unknown, to make the Qur’an the spring of my heart, and the light of my breast, the banisher of my sadness and reliever of my despondency.)
*and I tell you it has worked for me over and over again.

  • How about preventing this state as much as possible. Many of the time we have choices to make. Realising we have made the wrong one can make a wound, long to heal in our heart. The prophet taught us Istikhara and one of his sahabahs narrated that He (rasulullah) taught Istikhara like he taught them surahs of the Qur’an(stressing its importance). With Istikhara you can be rest assured that the best decision is made and even when things go wrong in it, you believe strongly that something better /more beneficial would come out of it. Isn’t this the rest we seek??

*Istikhara can be done even on what we tearm the least significant like choosing what to wear, what route to take and what food to eat to the more important ones like whom to marry and which house to buy.

How istikhara is performed
There’s so much more to Istikhara (requiring much details) but the basics of its observance is two rakaats of salat after which its duaa( supplication) is recited thus-

Allahumma inni astakhiruka bi ilmik, wa astakdiruka bi qudratik, wa asaluka min fadlikal azzem, fainnaka takdir wala aqdir, fa ta’lamu wa la a’lam, wa anta a’lamul guyub, Allahuma in kunta ta’lamu anna hadhal amr (mention what you want to decide on) khairun lee fi deeni wa ma’aashi wa aaqibati  amri, faqdirhuli wa yassirhu li thumma barikli feehi, wa inkunta ta’lamu anna hadhal amr  sharrun lee fiddeeni wa ma ‘ashi wa aaqibati amri, fasrifhu   ‘anni wasrifni anhu waqdur liyal khayr haithu kaana thumma ardini bihI.
Meaning– (Oh Allah I seek the counsel of your knowledge, and I seek the help of your omnipotence, and I beseech your magnificent grace. Surely you are capable and I am not. You know and I know not and you are the knower of the unseen. Oh Allah, Surely you know, so if this matter(mention it) is good for me, in my religion and in my life and for my welfare in the life to come then ordain it for me and make it easy for me, then bless me in it. And if this matter is bad for me, in my religion and in my life and for my welfare in the life to come, distance it from me, and distance me from it, and ordain for me what is good wherever it is to be found and help me to be content with it)

 

*If in a situation where the rakaats cannot be observed, saying the supplication is enough.

With the counsel of Allah sought, the mind is at rest that the decision taken is for the best. While moody, reciting the dua of the prophet is enough and while really sad, reciting the Qur’an( dhikr) might be all the heart needs to find rest!

IF you know of other ways to fight despondency, Share! A brethren might find it helpful!

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OURS is the religion of PeaCe- what is yours??


31st July, 2011
Since it wasn’t announced by the wee hours of today that the moon was sighted, it is obvious that tonight is the first taraweeh and fasting starts tomorrow. HURRAYY!!!!!!!!!!

I am in a village, starting a one week posting on Primary health care (PHC). I had felt bad at the thought of fasting here but on arrival, the thought faded, replaced by the awesome feel of the blessed month!

I had shed some tears earlier today because of the thoughts of how very hopeful I was at the beginning of the last ramadan, and how much  I believed I was going to continue with my good deeds after it and how much I did not succeed in doing that. But then, alhamdulillah that I have been given the grace to be alive now with the opportunity to be forgiven, get great rewards, work for aljannah and probably make better, more achievable resolution for the months before the next ramadan.

At d time for solatul Ishai, I felt so good, in my newly sewn Jilbab(I was going to be praying in this!). I walked towards the mosque happy, joined the many Muslims in the congregation in Observing Ishai and then taraweeh.

I did notice a lot here, but the most interesting to me was the kids I saw. The inner part of the mosque is for the men while the women and children are at the outer part, children in front and women at the back. I saw the children were in really lovelly clothes, I could have called new but wasn’t sure they are. One particular boy was donning a spotless white jalabiyya, I couldn’t but admire. This is a village but the sense of dressing well, even if occasionally is definitely not eluded.

Looking at this innocent children takes me back to the good old days (old?? Can’t believe am already talking dat way!!) when I was very young and together with my siblings and other children around, was Innocently devoted to Allah.
Our dressing was never without hijab and the boys would occasionally wear caps. We already could perform ablution, pray salat, recite certain verses of the Qur’an off hand. We particularly knew the stories of the prophets, thanks to ’the rope of Allah’(a series of textbooks on primary school Islamic studies curriculum).We would compete on our knowledge of these and  on the number of days we fasted.

I can remember I made a resolution to never break my fast again when while in JSS2, my younger brother who was in pry 5 fasted throughout ramadan. It was painful hearing him boast of that while I looked on, ashamed to mention how many I missed.

We would go for Arabic/Quranic  classes(ile keu) after school and during holidays attend Islamic vacation course(IVC)..hmmn d good childhood days!!!! How Important IVCs were! Majority of the day to day supplications we use now were learnt there.

we looked like this

If you didn’t know ‘bismillahi wa ala barakatullah’, You did not attend IVC, I assure you :)!

These days, it is rare to see children go to these kind of Arabic schools and the number of people who go for IVC is in decline. So many reasons are given by parents for this but I tell you, not justified.

The basics of Islam we learnt, at a time when our minds were not filled with how the day to day affairs of the world are run, when we didn’t know if anything became expensive nor were we aware of anything called terrorism.

Our Islam was the religion of peace, one that teaches good neighbourliness, good character, respect for parents, teachers and the elderly. One that provides solution to even the biggest of our problems.

Afterall if an ant was to attack you, all you have to say is-
‘Audhubikalimatillahitamat min sharri ma khalaqa’
And it did work and still does.

These learnt early on, am sure have kept many of us in the deen. We have been able to differentiate the Islam we knew from the one the world is making us see, d minstream media trying to make us believe.

We have remained steadfast and protective of our own because ours is the religion of PEACE!

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